{the should/could balance}

Make a list of 10 things you should do right now. 

Read the list and decide whether any of these items feels expansive and inspiring. 

Now write a list of the things you could do right now. If you had more money, more time, more energy, whatever. 

Read the list and decide if any of these items feel expansive and inspiring.

I am not going to tell you what you think I am. I am not going to say to throw away the shoulds and focus on the coulds. That would be awesome, but, it is not realistic and most of all, it would probably make you feel bad about yourself and your life. It would make you feel like you should forget about the shoulds and focus on the coulds. It would turn potential into drudgery. That is not our goal.  That kind of thinking turns possibility into pressure. We want to allow each their space. 

Instead, I propose a 50/50 split. 

For every should, you get a could. Kind of like a reward, but more like checks and balances. We have taste buds for savory and sweet foods. Our bodies are designed for participation in both the waking world and the rejuvenation of sleep.

In time and with practice, you can probably work this system so that you have 60% could-time and 40% should-time. You never know.

Start with balance.

This is a lesson in self-care.